Let’s be real. Relationships have a way of blurring our vision when it comes to the other person. We put them on pedestals, overestimate their qualities, and conveniently overlook the things that make us question why we’re even with them in the first place. But why? And how do we snap out of it?
Enter: The Shit List.
Now, I know it sounds crass, but hear me out. A “shit list” is exactly what it sounds like—a list where you jot down all the shitty, annoying, or downright awful traits your crush or ex has. Think of it as your mental detox. And trust me, it can be a game changer.
What is a Shit List?
It’s simple. Open up your Notes app, take a deep breath, and start listing the unappealing qualities or behaviors of the person who’s been living rent-free in your mind. This isn’t just a vent session; it’s a reality check. You’re reminding yourself that this person isn’t the god/goddess your emotions have made them out to be.
Example of a Shit List:
- Selfish AF
- Constantly moody for no reason
- Barely made time for me
- Never acknowledged my efforts
Why It Works
A lot of times, when you’re caught up in the fantasy of a person, you forget to see them for who they really are. Writing things down helps bring clarity. You get a raw, unfiltered look at their behavior. And when you read that list back to yourself, you’ll likely wonder why you wasted so much time and energy on someone who clearly didn’t deserve it.
The power of the shit list is in its simplicity. When you see their flaws on paper, it becomes so much harder to ignore them. This list will not only help you heal, but it will also prevent you from falling back into the same toxic cycle.
So the next time you find yourself daydreaming about an ex or doubting your decision to move on, pull up that shit list, and remind yourself of all the reasons why they weren’t worth your time in the first place. Keep it handy?it’s your cheat sheet for clarity.